When we fight, we push each other away. It can often feel like there is a massive gap between us, and neither of us knows how to reach across that gap.
We are both stuck, staring at each other across the void, kept apart by hurt, resentment, anger, and fear that anything we do might push us further apart.
This is the time for soft words. The purpose of these words is not to fix anything, not to try to figure out the fight or come to any resolution, but simply to reach across the gap and say, “Hey, I’m still here.” The message of these words are hope and regret. They are not apologies, promises, explanations, and they don’t need to be explained or expanded on. They stand alone. They are words to simply be heard by the other. Here are a few suggestions of some soft words you can share:
“I wish that fight didn’t happen.”
“I hate it when we hurt each other like that.”
“I hope we can get back to being close soon.”
“I miss the us when we are in a good space.”
Words like those are invitations to heal the hurt. They are a great place to start the to journey across the gap to each other.
Ka kite anō